Bfd,
I don't blame you for being confused about what to do. It sounds like you are getting alot of mixed messages. It's hard to say what's really going on with him. Do you think maybe he is afraid of real commitment like marriage? Alot of people freak out when thougths of marriage come into the pic.
If he was serious about you guys splitting up I would think he would've made a clean break of it instead of hanging around and being almost usual.
I feel for you. I think all you can do is to keep trying to talk to him and get him to tell you what he is thinking or whats going on. I have dealt with guys that dont like to or don't know how to open up. Actually I dont think I have ever been with anyone who did. I usually casually and sweetly prod my husband until I get something out of him and sometimes you have to go with the old reliable firm "you NEED to tell me". It is your life on hold and in the balance and you deserve and need a resonable explaination so you can either put your energy into working things out or start doing what you have to move on.
I hope the best for you and I hope everything works out. I really do understand alot of what your feeling.
Heidu