Sigh, I am so sorry that all of you experienced growing up with a narcisstic parent.
I know that myself I had to also deal with that, but it wasn't my mother, it was my father and older sister and YES, THEY KNOW IT ALL AND IT IS ALL ABOUT THEIR WAY. And YES, they do not truely know how to show affection to others. However, they do like to be shown affection and waited on and respected. Oh they can also be incredibly condescending and they sure know how to invalidate to the max don't they?

At least we can learn about it, and even be treated for the depths of our despair and personal struggle from being stuck in an evironment with this kind of person. I am older and this was not available for me to know and YES, I truely didn't know how to even begin to have my own voice. In fact it took me a long time to be able to speak up without stumbing over my words. Friends?, Oh, I was so incredibly shy because all growing up between my homelife and boarding a bus with my older brother who also abused me but was abused himself, there was the constant unrelenting bullying on the school bus. Honestly?, I don't even know how I even learned anything because in school I was worn out from that bus ride to and from school.

It can be very triggering if we come across a strong personality in others, yes it happens all the time with me. I had to learn to differenciate between just a strong persona and that of someone Narcissistic. And to this day I really struggle to talk about my own issues because that was never really permitted. No I just had to deal and get over it somehow.