So.. Hi! I'm Dan. I have finally been able to be honest with my wife after twelve years marriage. I finally talked to her, honestly, about what's been going on with me. She was the strong one, actually, showing me patterns of behavior and calling me out on the things I have been doing. All I really had to do was admit it, and I almost couldn't even do that! But I did! And it broke a cycle of fighting that we have been in for just about ever! Well, not really fighting as much as her reacting to me. I'm the one that is in a cycle. But I have her support now! and I also have a Psychologist appointment tommorrow! This scares me to death! I have known I have needed help since I was a kid. But now I have talked about it. Now someone else knows things that I can not take back. Now it's real! I asked her to look me in the eyes and tell me what she believed. She told me that she believed I had a serious mental condition. I told her that I believe that too. I told her that I need her to be concrete in her thinking.. to not change her mind. Everyone that I have ever trusted like this before... they would get into it with me and then suddenly... change their minds! I told her how important it was to me that she did not do that. She said she understood but I don't know if she knows what that would do to me if she just simply... changed her mind! Has anyone else been through this? I'm having a really, really hard time.