Crew,
I have found that humility and gratitude can go hand in hand if we allow it. Only through being truely humble can we see/feel real gratitude.
Sometimes by being betrayed and/or having a life altering experience we can get knocked down so hard that we are forced to examine things around us and within us that would otherwise be ignored or considered unimportant. Ironically I believe this can be a gift...It's one I personally wish I did not have at the moment but I know that in time I will come out of it a better and stronger person.
Good luck on your journey