I think it would be ok to say, " i cant sit next to men because of past trauma" if people think THAT is tmi too bad. I tell people i have "trauma issues" all the time because they have to understand my needs and behaviors. They DONT necessarily need to know more than i' ve experienced extreme, repeated trauma. But seriously, it should be MY choice of what i share and how much i disclose and to whom and when, and if someone has a problem with it IT IS THEIR PROBLEM not mine. Billi, in my opinion, did nothing wrong with her disclosure on the bus. In fact, if more people spoke up publicly more often, i think the crime would happen less. This particular crime thrives in shame in darkness. Im still suffering years later in the shame and darkness. I almost think i.would feel better / freerer if i got one of those bullhorns(is that what they are called) and got on top.of my roof and just announce to the world every painful dark ugly secret thing that happened. Just once and for all.