I feel your pain Mr._J. I have DEFINITELY been in your place, but I just wanted to say that I've been in your wife's place too....I think....where you're so overstimulated and overwhelmed by being in a new place, on "vacation" with a younger person, or more, who seem to have all the energy in the world and require all FUN all the time on vacation...even a quick call to the man you love can feel like just that much more pressure on top of an already bursting stress balloon...and the guilt she may feel (I feel) when selfishly putting off that responsibility, and consequently causing you stress and pain....makes me even more hesitant to call! It's a messed up stress- response that only makes things worse...but, I don't know, I guess I'm just saying to give her a chance? And I definitely agree with these good folks...have a talk with her about all this. If I was her, I'd want to hear it : )