Yes, we have been trying to keep things as normal as possible. He still gets in trouble for bad behaviours and gets commended for good. You know when you look at a person with a lot on their mind you can see it in his face? That is how I see him sometimes. All along we have established the counsellors office as a safe place to talk but the in betweens are getting worse and worse. I understand that he has talked more and more about it there so it will stir up feelings in him. He woke up last night from a nightmare about his abuser and after I calmed him down and reassured him that going to court is not something he has to do if he doesn't want to he told me that the abuse went on for 2 whole years. He said "two weeks" in kindergarten and grade 1. It's hard to stay present when you hear things like that. Sorry, just sort of journalling here at the moment as well as sharing. Thank you guys for the advice, it really helps seeing something in black and white vs freaking out at 3 in the morning. It is really hard to feel like you are doing the right thing by your child in this situation. He depends on me to help him thru this but I don't even think I am doing that right.