I have been working on this one a long time. I would say the first thing that helped me battle my self hatred was when I got into group therapy. I hated myself so much, and was so insecure and ashamed of myself, that I literally did not share in the group for almost a year. Luckily, even though I felt like leaving every single week of that first year, I decided to stick with it. I was in group therapy for 7 years in my early to mid twenties. The process of sharing all these things I was ashamed of and hated about myself and being accepted and cared for anyways went a long way to healing myself. This continues to be something that allows me to heal. Sharing my insecurities and feelings with others and having them accepted has helped me to heal from the self hate. It is still there somewhat, but much of the time I like myself now. Finally, I think being on this site has helped me hate myself less. Seeing that there are so many people who live with what I live with (or something like it) is comforting to me. I feel like I could go on, this is a great topic! However, that is all for now....