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Lifeistrulyaride · Mar 28, 2012, 05:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Leed

I'm so sorry! I know well how it feels to be "overlooked" at home. I was one of 4 girls -- I was the 3rd one, and we girls were just "there" kind of like the furniture was. We could never talk to our folks cause they were drunk a good share of the time.

You deserve to be heard! I know your Mom is busy with your sister, but darn it you're entitled to her time too! Some evening, ask her if the two of you can sit down and have a serious talk. Tell her that there are some things that you really need to tell her. (Does she know about the sexual abuse? Who did it and were they reported?) Then just tell her what you NEED to have her know! And don't let anyone interrupt you! If you have to, take the phone off the hook! Make this time YOURS. And tell her that you feel you're being pushed aside (after you've told her everything else).

It won't be as hard as you think it will. Once you get started, it will go well. It's just the thinking about it that's difficult. I wish you the very best -- God bless, and please take care. Hugs, Lee

Yeah sitting back and thinking about it has been really difficult for me..just her reaction to it all..her blowing it off like it's nothing, I guess that's what is making me so anxious.

I'm a little to shy and uncomfortable to even consult my mom in person so I just sent her an email...and it took me a good hour to hit the send button...My mom does not know that I have repressed memories of sexual abuse..I don't know the abuser because I have repressed it..I just have flashbacks and nightmares/night terrors from it..and I have gone through some other bizarre behaviors as well. This is what I sent:

Hi,
I have a question that I'm not really comfortable asking you in person. What was I in therapy for back when I was younger? Because I feel like for years I have been going through things that should be re-addressed in that kind of setting. I'd also appreciate it if you kept this confidential..and would not bring this up with dad..or any other family member that I am asking you this. I know you have a lot to deal with, with Max and all of his problems but I've been keeping things that I have had to deal with in for a long time and I don't think that's fair anymore.

Thanks,
Drew.