The first situation is a hard call.... but it is a call to not drink, for when drunk yours and his ability to make rational decisions is greatly impaired.
The second situation was indeed sexual abuse.... and the fear was normal.... many freeze and cannot move at all, as to stop what is about to happen.
((((((( HUGS ))))))) ~ ~ ~ ~ ((((((( HUGS )))))))
LoVe,
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