I am having the same issue. Any social gathering at all I wish I could go head strong buzzed or drunk. But unfortunately my child's schoolyard friend's birthday parties are not appropriate.. nor is AA haha. I am coping with my social anxiety, my therapist told me to stop avoiding social interactions and situations. My attempt: I talked to a lady while smoking a cigarette tonight [at work, on break] I wouldn't normally do this, normally I stare at my shoes or somewhere in the distance. I realized most people enjoy the blank monotony of redundant rituals such as "hello." "how are you?" "good how are you?" "good." "weather bla bla bla" "yeah.. hot.. blablabla.. cold blablal"
I see no point in saying anything at all if you have to be trapped in this pointless meandering. BUT I noticed people seem to flock towards it. I stick to one rule in conversing with normal human beings [those that aren't drunk is what I mean]: always tell the truth or how you feel unless it is inappropriately or irrelevantly negative for no one wants to hear a whine-***.

Help at all? ha, sorry for the round about response.

P.S. I find myself stuttering a lot more while sober and being nervous about saying the right thing. Boy, that is embarrassing!