I discovered 1 1/2yrs ago my husband after confronting him w/finding well over 500 txt messages,letter writing of compliments,concern to a woman 14 yrs younger,single, he claimed was just a friend.His txting to her was with me in the same room alot of times,he lied about who he was txting. He swears they had no sex, I know they spent alot of time alone together so I am skeptical. He refused counceling expecting me to forgive and forget and act like it was as he said, nothing.

He gave her money for bills and some spending money,in letters I found she thanked him for advice,his caring about her well being,and nice words.I didn't recieve but two during our 5 yrs together before this,he said I should just know without recieving compliments. He has never been the talker type, many times a day or two with not more than 2 sentences from him after my begging for conversations, but it appears he was able to talk,txt and be who he was there but not here at home to his wife that gave 100%.

During the 5 yrs prior to finding this, he has rude to the point of not answering me if I spoke to him. Snapped at me for no reasons which I repeatedly said I was tired of. This would get better for a bit then resume.
Now year and half later because I didn't forgive and forget as he thought I should after his claiming there was nothing, angrily answering any questions from me then silence. In over 500 txts that I haven't recovered yet he said it was a bunch of stupid stuff.

I am in periodic therapy alone,cost reasons while he goes about his daily life. At this point I don't ask questions about his job,who he talks to or much of anything. This woman he was txting moved,he may or may not have contact with her,I dont know. I am trying to resume my life and do for me. He is very short with me,speaking less than before. I feel like I am being punished for not doing as he thought I should have done after the discoveries. A few eve. ago I said I was tired of his attitude and not answering me. He turned it around that I didn't talk or did this or that,and asked so it's all his fault? Like that was then,this is now, my actions now of keeping myself busy with other things is the reason for the marriage in the condition it's in now. Is this typical for a person with denial at the onset of what I found with his just a friend to now act rude because I am not doing what he thinks I should?

I am ready to move on because there is no sign of his attitude improving but getting worse, as if I owe him now, because he said he was sorry a couple times then I should be as he thinks the same as before.