Quote:
Originally Posted by Plutonian
A couple days ago, I told one of my good friends that I was sick last week from drug use (I didn't tell her what I was using and she didn't ask) and that I'm detoxing, trying to sober up for good. She responded less than ideally. Brought up that this weekend a friend we haven't seen in years will be in town and he wants to smoke with us  I told her I don't want to, even though I'm very tempted. She kept up with the pressure, "oh come on! He's not in town often and who knows when we'll see him again? Just this one weekend!"
I've been through the whole, "one time, this is just a one time thing, I won't do it again after this," situation before. Many times. It never works out in my favor. I just go back to regular use after a while. What more can I tell her to get her to stop pushing it? She was supportive of my past decisions to sober up, but she's pushing it now because an old friend will be in town. |
oh such a good question, pluto. we have experienced the same situations too. as we get clean those "friends" fall by the wayside cause we are moving away from that life of addiction. you may have felt in the past that these were your friends. for me later on i realized these friends were just my drinking buddies. that's all they were. we didn't have many things in common other than using. you're changing your life-stopping using the drugs. that makes them feel uncomfortable/threatened re their own useage. for me i had to look at the situation and ask myself are these truly friends? true friends want the best for us. give some thought to that. as for your "friends" just say, "no thanks." distance yourself from the upcoming visit. if they are truly your friends they will offer support on your journey to stay clean.
there's a saying, rule of thumb-"stay away from people, places, and things" that we associate with our past addiction.
keep your positive focus. we care and support you  we want good things for you. 
__________________
Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle.
The world you desired can be won. It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours..~Ayn Rand
|