As my former T said, "THIS is the work!" Though I'm not a fan of this word, it seems like transference--transferring what you felt about other important (parental?) relationships in your life onto her. Did you also feel like you didn't deserve to get what you needed from them? If so, you're at a really important phase in your work. I was there, too, and what made it better was realizing through the shame that I was and am worth it to receive these things. Though, sadly, since it didn't happen in the past with my parents it cannot happen in the same way with my T. But I can learn that I did nothing wrong in the past and I did deserve this connection. I cannot get these needs met now, but I can reframe what I do with these deep yearnings, including learning to be my own parent, which T models for me. You'll need to be OK with realizing that your need makes sense and it cannot be met and learn to fill these needs yourself before you can truly move on and be more content.

Yes, this is how I've felt, too! I totally took care of myself emotionally from a young age, but how I did it was harmful to me. You have to let yourself become dependent on learning these things from someone (albeit late, in adult life) before you can emerge in a better state of independence, one that has you more content with yourself and your life.

The trick now is to talk w/ T about all of this... and I wish you luck for that. A short break could be good, but would it be running away from the deeper work? I don't know the answer to that. I do encourage you to continue with therapy as it seems like you've made it far and you have to push yourself to reach the top of the mountain, which is in sight.