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Old Mar 29, 2012, 11:18 AM
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Originally Posted by Perna View Post
I don't think we can do everything for someone; you lent the money AND they had an opportunity to learn the principal of sowing and reaping (by his continuing to not work and spend money recklessly) when they lost the house anyway. Taking them in right away would not have given that opportunity, that moment to think about one's actions. Especially if you had taken them in, after having already bailed them out; they would have seen you as a safety net, perhaps always there.
Yep, that's exactly the point, Perna. Actually, I probably should not have loaned the money. Then the husband would have seen the error of his ways probably 3-6 months sooner.

That being said, I know there was nothing wrong with loaning the money. However, by saying no to loaning more money and by not offering to open my home to them, it was one of the first steps I took (this happened 4 years ago) toward setting boundaries in my life.
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