Ok I'm a brand new member here and reading this really hits home for me. This is exactly why I joined this site. My bf and I just broke up and I'm very depressed. I have finally realized that I have a "pattern" and after reading this, it's the exact pattern I have had in every relationship. I'm starting counseling again next week to break this but if anyone has advice on how to quit repeating this type of behavior I would be grateful!

Thank you!
A&A