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Old Mar 29, 2012, 10:32 PM
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Originally Posted by sunrise View Post
I think that if doing these things makes you feel better about yourself and more confident, then go for it! Not shallow at all.

With my T, I feel grateful he doesn't seem to care how I look. I don't take a lot of care with my appearance and I'm glad that doesn't matter to him. I've encountered some people who are judgmental about appearance and may think ill of me because I'm not into fashion and make-up. But my T is just a casual guy and very accepting. Just one less thing to have to worry about--how I look--for therapy.
A good point...I dress many times to make myself feel better, but I don't care about how anyone else looks. I don't judge others based on how they dress.

And there are plenty of times I've gone out of the house sans makeup, old t shirt and jeans, hair hidden under a ball cap pulled low...just don't care those days! I went to therapy once this way and the first thing T said was, "What's wrong? Something's wrong."
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