Thank you so very much for all of your wisdom...I tend to feel inferior here(because of me I know) and your responses really help me...I even printed them off, to guide me...sending sincere and heartfelt thanks to you...my initial feeling with him is that he is soft-spoken and gentle...and I don't like that...do not trust it...seems so fake to me, and not real...weak and scary..intellectually, I understand why I feel this way, but emotionally it still affects me...thank you for caring and responding...it truly helps.. if safe and ok...