It still effected you. You won't go forward berating yourself like this. Own it and move through it the best you can. If you look at your own trauma as unimportant next to others, that invalidates you and it's not fair to you. Even someone who's been abused badly has had it better than others. You can't say that that makes it OK. You can't just snap out of something that hurt you because, "it shouldn't have bothered me anyway"

I feel like I wasn't sexually abused throughout childhood because he and I are the same age. How can I speak about what happened to me when others got touched by their fathers?

I don't feel like it's valid.

I feel like you about childhood too. There were good times, but I felt so numb and empty. There were horrible times too. How can the bad times be valid, if there were good times?

AND I HATE. I hate that my parents put on such an amazing front to everyone about how nice and supportive they were, because they weren't like that all the time.

I just wanted to let you know I feel the same way, and I hear you. It doesn't make it easier, but it's something. Stay strong.