Please do yourself a favour and LEAVE. None of what you describe is normal or remotely healthy. Your husband is aware of your naivity regarding relationships and he's USING IT AGAINST YOU TO GET HIS WAY.
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No means no, in EVERY language, to EVERYBODY.
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Emotional abuse is N0T better bcoz it doesn't leave visible scars. It's WORSE bcoz you recognize it too late and the scarring is on your psyche. I've experienced both, and honestly, if I had to choose, I'd go for the blue eyes and bruised ribs.
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I rarely tell people what to do, especially if i don't know them. This is 1 of those times, RUN.
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You're worthy of love and happiness, no need to settle for any less.
Take care.XOXO