Sometimes you need to make things black and white because we spend too much time wallowing in the gray area. If something happened that made you uncomfortable, even if nobody ever touched you but just exposed you to things that were not age appropriate, ie dirty magazines, or exposed themsevles or walked around the house naked. If someone touched you doesn't matter if it happened once or a dozen times, doesn't matter if it was over the clothes or under the clothes, if it was between a child an adult its a crime, if it was child on child it is still abuse. IT AFFECTED YOU. Label it. Put a label on it and own it. And then work to heal. And don't listen to the husband that said people would laugh at you, traumatic experiences should never be compared. The only TRUTH is YOUR TRUTH. If you felt violated, YOU WERE VIOLATED. The emotional toll of sexual abuse is so expansive and when we allow ourselves to belittle it or justify it by comparison it prevents the healing process. I am validating you. A professional therapist VALIDATED YOU. It is OK to be hurt by something...when it comes to abuse the word 'severity' is mute. The truth is THAT WE ARE AFFECTED BY IT AND RIGHTLY SO.

Keep talking with your therapist. Tell them all your insecurities. FEEL VALIDATED.