((((pheonixrising))))),

Oh, I have been there and I remember how upset/angry I was. And it isn't worth looking for a way to punish him etc. Even though that does come with the anger.
I am very sorry, and try very hard to calm down and begin to consider what is good for YOU right now. Looking back on my situation, it really was all about "HIM" and his problems and it was not my fault at all or had anything to do with me not being good enough either. Sigh, you have to really try to calm down because honestly, this is all about HIS ego in need of a boost because he is not feeling good about himself somehow.

What I also learned is that it is a big lie beginning and then it will be all about HIS guilt and then they get mean at you for what isnt your fault at all. And to be honest, two wrongs don't make a right either so revenge is a waste of time. And yes that is very had to see when feeling betrayed.

Unfortunately he was not "all that" that you thought he was and hoped he was and tried to trust him to be either. So now you have to work on you and understand that your next move should be that "YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THIS" and what it really means is that now you are going to have to quietly figure out an exit strategy instead of focusing on the anger and desire for revenge or even to see what he is looking for in other women that you may not have somehow. DO NOT go there, it is not about you, remember that.

(((((Hugs))))
Open Eyes