Open eyes:Thank you so much for giving me your perspective

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Healed: to me, Christianity is defined as having a relationship with God. Not how many times you go to church or whatever else. That being said, I don't understand how to submit and have free will. Believe me, people have tried to explain it to me, so while I don't think I'm a terrible Christian, I do believe this inability has robbed me in some spiritual way. Like what if I was supposed to do something great for cause of Christ, and now I can't bcoz of this?? I've stopped enquiring about submission v.s freewill to spiritual mentors bcoz they can't understand my stance without full disclosure...
Your insight is appreciated.XOXO