Thank you and I'm sorry you went through a similar problem. In all honesty, I think it would help. The part that's hard right now is it's so entangled right now. I bought her a car (not thinking she'd be divorcing me in a year and a half) and she wants to keep it. Fine I would give that to her but it's killing me with the payment. Heck I AM giving her what I can but that's just it, it's not enough because she's not working and insists on some seriously expensive habits - iphone, car and other things... she won't let go of. I need to free up something so that I can live too. I understand what you're saying and at some point I hope it helps. but I am paying everything already.
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Originally Posted by Gilead
It's apparently common among you and I.
I was able to make some headway by finally telling her;
1) I'll give you everything I possibly can so that you're happy - because then you'll leave me alone and I'll be happy
2) You have no leverage at all with me so stop trying to tell me what to do - because if you don't stop then I'll stop giving you what you want
Since then it's been pretty cordial, living 150+ miles apart helps, not divorced and don't care if that ever happens. I hold up my end of the bargain and give her as much money as I can which basically doubles her income from her job and that's it. Not sure if it will work for you but so far I'm ok with it.
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