I remember replying to CantExplain's thread, and I was one of the few at the time who said I liked to dress up. I know my T doesn't care or judge me on what I wear or how dressed up/made up I am - though no doubt she notices - but I feel more comfortable if I'm more confident in my appearance, so I do tend to make an effort, and wear clothes I feel are flattering but appropriate. I don't even leave the house without makeup, so forgiddaboudit, though T has seen me with tear-stained cheeks on a few occasions.

So no, Chopin, I don't think it makes you shallow. I don't think I'm shallow - or vain - in my case at least it's a self esteem thing.