I am so happy you are still here and that you see that life is beautiful, even with its hard times.....I'm glad I can see that too.
If not coming to PC is what you need to do to heal, I think people here understand and support that. I took a long time away too.....and some days spend less time than others because sometimes I get triggered to think of my exT too, and that hurt isn't something I feel like I need to add to really.
It's a very emotionally mature attitude to realize that sometimes we really don't get what we want/need/deserve, life is not fair, but we move on, and try to leave the bitterness behind us. I think you have grown, are growing, a lot.
That said, tho xT means well and does seem to really care, a part of me wishes she would just leave you alone so you CAN move on with less hindrance/triggering reminders such as this. Both sweet and cruel at the same time to remember and text you......I don't know, what I wouldn't love to get something from my xT and am left to wonder how much/if she cares or thinks of me at all, but I think it would only dredge up hurt, reopen wounds I'm beginning to heal from.....so I think it's wiser for there to be silence between us.....and I really feel it would be wiser of your xT, too, to just be silent and let you heal.