My T frequently says that we can talk about whatever--that's the goal--but what we can't do is (re)enact stuff... But what's not going to happen on her watch is me doing things to try to force her into some maternal stance toward me and her responding in said maternal way. I absolutely hate that, because of course it's all I really want. Because I'm still convinced (on an emotional level, at least) that that would fix everything.

Is she right? Should it be all talk, no action on her part? If so, is that the attitude that one should take in general...that what's past is past, and there's nothing else to be done with it but to talk and mourn? Is anything else, as Kitten16 pointed out, about the repetition compulsion?