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Originally Posted by healed84
This is what T keeps on telling me....I need to accept that this is the place that I am in, it doesn't mean I have to stay here, but I need to stop beating myself up about it. Like I SHOULD be better right now. I was talking to T on the phone today.. Not in a good place and I just said I am sick of being in this place, a place where I have to call him in between sessions, the place where I have to be fit in for an appointment when I wasn't scheduled b/c I am not in a good place. So, as we were going through what he wanted me to do to get through the weekend.. He said most importantly.. I need to work on accepting where I am, not feeling guilty, and take the help.
How the heck do I do this?? It seems so easy, when talking about it. However, I don't know how... anybody know how to do this? Any suggestions??
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It's really hard to stop wanting something, anything, especially when you want something to be different.
You may want the entire kit and kaboodle to be different, but, well, unless you study with the Dalai Lama and all of a sudden attain enlightenment, that may be a
little difficult.
My best suggestion? Pick little things that are okay to accept and feel differently about. What if it was more okay to accept additional sessions for instance? Just ask yourself that one little question. What if it was more okay?
I work a lot with people who experience profound chronic pain. You know what? The docs
want the patients to come in and work toward a solution. It's one of my jobs to help convince people of that
fact.
None of the patients
want to be in pain, and it's okay to see the docs as there to
help get rid of it
.
Another suggestion is to consider that we simply aren't going to feel like sunshine and rainbows all the time. It's not possible and indicative of some lie that we have been fed about our lives being happy.
Nope, in my opinion about 80% of life is total crap. So, I shoot for 20% good, that's 12 minutes out of every hour. I say give yourself at least that 12 minutes.