Yes I understand my first t's words too. I guess I just feel upset that she never really went into the past or tried to understand my feelings about it. At times it even seemed like she was saying my feelings weren't valid. Don't get me wrong, on an adult level she was a fab t, but she didn't really go into the past much and wanted me to just let it go under the notion that everyone did the best they could and that's that. I agree that we can only act according to our level of conscious awareness, but I wanted my feelings heard and understood. My current t works along the lines that my childhood wasn't good enough, and while my family might've did the best they could, I needed more.
It was a tricky issue but I do see all sides. I'm just very upset right now
I'm glad you have siblings and a belonging of sorts. My siblings have no interest in me at all, we are strangers.
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Originally Posted by likewater
Dreamy01, i understand where your first T was coming from. That your parents did the best they could. I think ALL parents do the best they can. When my mom repeatedly tried to kill us and she abused us in every way she WAS doing the best she could. She is schizophrenic and very ill. No parent starts out saying, " i' m going to make little Johnny' s life a living hell ! Yep , that's my patental goal. " i think parents who abuse are just very damaged and they dont have any resources or knowledge or tools or skills for parenting either. They arent even equipped for life skills much less parenting. I'm not saying this is an excuse for their behavior, just maybe an explanation. Im very confused how feel about my mom. I love her because she is my mom. I remember moments she was
Kind. I feel like that was her true self shining through she isnt ever like that anymore. I hate her too. She can be a monster.i'm very afraid of her.
Oh , i guess i'm very lucky i have a sister and brother. None of us are twins. My sister and i look a little alike though. I think she's prettier. I love them both more than i can describe.
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