I am sorry I missed your post where you said you were in therapy.

It does take time and a lot of work but I believe healing is possible. I truly do. My first t used the analogy of an onion and I think that's pretty accurate. Usually only a few layers are peeled off at first but over time you can reach the deeper issues and layers. Often it takes years. I've been in therapy for a long time with three different ts but it's only now with the level of safety I've experienced both with myself and another that I can begin to approach the very young child's feelings and needs.

Therapy can be a lifelong process because it's about working on the self and to some extent learning how to live despite our wounds. But it's not only painful. It can be wonderful too. Some of the experiences of my prior ts have been the best memories of my life. I hope that for you too.