I so totally agree with this. You can't move forward from a place that you haven't accepted. Marsha Linehan believes in this strongly (DBT), she calls it radical acceptance and she feels that people increase their suffering by not accepting where they are at.

If you accept where you are at then you can base yourself in the reality and really take inventory on where you are and what you need to do. I'm sure that you have come across people who are in denial? This is sort of the same thing. When you are in denial you are ignoring what is going on with you.

My mom was a big denial queen and it drove me so crazy that it led me to have no other choice then live solidly in reality. I so despised her denial.

People don't accept where they are at because it is painful. Allowing that pain to come, however, and working through it will put you on a better path to recovery and healing. Keeping that pain on the side and ignoring it certainly isn't doing you any favors. It really is just prolonging your agony.

Also, accepting where you are at and forgiving yourself for it makes your journey easier. Having compassion for yourself is just nice.

Do you think that maybe you are hearing someone's negative voice from the past when you don't measure up?