My boyfriend is bipolar and I am just finding out a week after he abruptly ended our relationship in a very strange way and for irrational reasons. He quit his job, shut off his phone and withdrew from everyone but his immediate family. I love him dearly and I want to help but he shut me out. I also want to know if when he snaps out of this episode will he remember all the love we had, good times, affection, laughter etc… and come back to me. Had I known ahead of time I could have done things differently, learned to me more accepting (although I think I have been very accepting) but all of his mood swings and bizarre behaviors would have made much more sense. I also think he suffers from passive aggressive disorder and he and I have learned to cope with that. All of my friends tell me to let go and move on but they don’t get it. Inside is this most amazing man with so much affection and love to give. He is extremely kind hearted and was very scared to commit to me. He fought it and fought it but love took over. After 7 months he finally told me he loved and adored me and that there was no other option for him. I already knew this but it was nice to hear. That same night he could not sleep and we sat up until 4AM just kissing and being affectionate and sweet to one another. He always held me close and would get downright upset if I wasn’t very close to him. He found a letter the next day that I wrote many years ago to an X and it hurt his feelings because it made him feel my feelings for him where insincere. My man is never one to talk about feelings EVER so he said nothing. We slept very close again through the night and the next morning he left me a very sweet note that said goodbye until we meet again you have all of my love. He then went to his parents home where he grew up, shut his phone off and withdrew from me and his friends. I was very concerned and had no clue we were even broke up. After a week I showed up at his home. He saw me and literally dropped to his knees. Told me I kicked him in his nuts and came back to do it again. He told me I was insincere that I was an actress and asked me to leave. Hesitantly and in tears I left. I wrote a 5 page letter to him and went back 2 days later to drop it off and put it on his truck and noticed his mom and dad were both home from work so I txt his mother to make sure he was ok and she told me that as a family they were going through some things and she asked that I please just leave and drop off the note in the mailbox. Throughout the week I had one person very close to him confirm he is bipolar and then his mother also validated it and told me to be patient as they try to work through this. I am very concerned, feel helpless and want to help. Id never judge him as this is simply an illness. Do you think he will call me again? I know he loves me and I think me showing up out of the blue upset him and made matters worse but I didn’t now any better and now I feel very guilty. I want to wait for him, I will but how long is too long. Please help.. I am so sad> I cry daily. I keep lil journals and mail them to him. At first they were all about how sad I was and how much I love him but now I am just trying to make him aware that I know something is wrong and I want to be here for him. I am now just trying to be supportive. Not even sure he is getting any of the things I send or reading them but I am trying to stay relevant …is this a good or bad idea?