This is practically word-for-word what my exT said to me after talking with her consultation group! WTF? We'd been meeting twice weekly for 15 months with her never having doubted it. And the reassurance that I sometimes NEEDED she stopped cold turkey giving. There is some seriously effed up psychology movement out there that intercedes when therapists go to consultation groups and talk about their patients, has them completely change their ways and enact new rules over night without consulting the patient. The thing is that this is traumatic and abusive to those of us who spent time and energy building up trust. I've learned to really distrust the notion of consultation as some therapists do it. We are not cases, we are people, and if you do not know how to deal with a client, figure that out early on before any attachment happens.

I'm so sorry for you Kacey. but what I can say is that my story had a happy ending because I found an amazing T who meets with me 2x / week, emails, texts, and calls me back and even today squeezed me in for an extra session bc something difficult came up. Such Ts do exist. I made sure when I was interviewing new Ts to only get an appt with people who had been in practice for at least 20 years so that they'd have loads of experience and would be likely to rely on consultation groups. In fact, given my crappy last experience my T made a deal that she consults with ME first and if she wants to consult with someone else, she lets me know/asks in advance.

I wish sometimes that ethical boards could cover such situations. You were so brave to get out of this relationship! After my T dropped the bombshells on me (there were about 5), I stayed with her, which caused me immeasurable pain that I'm still working through almost 2 years later...

Take care of yourself.