I got the idea for this thread from Serotonin's post about whether therapy really works. Everyone said it works if you have a good connection with the t.

Does a good connection have to mean you feel comfortable having a conversation? Or can it just be that you think the t is insightful and is a good model for qualities that you're trying to work on?

I feel anxious about even casual conversation with my t- much more anxious and self conscious than I usually am with most people irl. But it seems natural that I'm going to have a hard time having a casual conversation with a t who I consider to be good at their job. Being good at their job means they will understand my weaknesses/insecurities/whatever you call them. I was going to him for a whole year and I still feel this way. How can I have a good connection if I think the therapist is good at their job? Some who I can easily chat with don't seem helpful.