This is something that I am also baffled by. I either trust people totally and get abused or won't let anyone near me - I don't know how to do it and keep myself safe. My T says it has to do with boundaries and maybe trust isn't about trusting one person with everything, but knowing whih bits of us we can trust with who. I think it may also be about robustness, so that if that trust is betrayed, we are still OK with ourselves. Soup