Thanks to all of you. I'm going. To stop with the letters. I was thinking they may do more harm than good. I started to educate myself this week and that is really helping. In retrospect I now see that he was manic before going into this depression so him withdrawing was his way of coping and me forcing him to talk to me and entering conflict into his life I'm sure contributed to his downward spiral. I didn't know he had bipolar until after the fact. NOW that I am educating myself it was clear as day. I wish I would have known so I could educate myself earlier and been more supportive and aware when he was manic. I'm going to be patient as his mother also asked me to be patient and give him time. I'm hoping for the best and will def take care of myself. Its been a very long and hard week with absolutely no contact from him. I hope for a future with him and will def do all I can to help him manage this, if and when he gives me a chance. Thank u very much for your advice. This isn't something I can just talk to my friend about and expect them to understand.