This made me think of something my T. said a while ago that really wasn't surrounding our trust discussion. He told me a story of his dad in the military...that his dad didnt just blow his money on shore leave and all his buddies knew it so they would come to him to ask to borrow money... He said sometimes they would ask for $20 (which back then was a lot of money) but he would give them $5...if they repaid that then maybe the next time he would give them $10... to see if they were truely $20 trustworthy... and that sometimes until you get to know someone you need to trust them with $5 self revelation if they can be trusted with that then you move on....