I have not told my H that I've been chatting or more like it sharing on this page. The reason - well he will think it's a chatroom or things like that. His previous wife had an affair so it took a loooong time for him to trust me. I am scared that if I tell him he'll react like I am cheating and I don't feel guilty at all goong on without him knowing. I mentioned that I read a lot on the net and ask questions so I am not totally lying. Anyone else coming here in secret??? I've told my sis though and she thinks it's great.