Yeah it's interesting how others view their therapists.

I find Jimrats view, a little bit clinical. A therapist isn't just another person on your payroll, no different from a cleaner, gardener, dentist, bank manager, etc your therapist is someone you bare your soul to, its an entirely different relationship. Albeit a strange one to make sense of. But each to their own.

I'm perfectly aware of my Therapist being someone i "hire", i know she'll never be anything other than the kindest person i've met. We are not friends, we will not be friends and we are definitely not mother and child. Yet, when i "fall and scrape my knee" figuratively speaking... she is the 1st person i want to speak to. One of the only people in my life who can make it all better. What's that all about???

I think depending on why you're in therapy and what your childhood experiences were like, there is a degree of reparenting involved, and that reparenting can only happen if there is a solid & trusting relationship between therapist and client. I could be very wrong but i'd imagine the clients who treat their therapists like "tax inspectors" are doing so to keep an element of emotional distance from the therapist.

I suppose it stands to reason that if you experience this "reparenting" or simply bare your soul to your therapist week in week out, that an attachment can't fail to emerge, and with attachment it's natural to desire close proximity to the person providing you with stability, encouragment, trust etc. It actually a very natural and human impulse.

Sorry i've waffled on Squiggle... it sounds like it's something you want to explore, it's ok to not want to be close to your therapist, totally ok. But i hope you get the answers you're looking for as you explore further.

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