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Originally Posted by Asiablue
It is truly a mystery that's for sure! I have always said that the therapeutic relationship is the strangest relationship you can ever be in. This is why I want to get out before I get burned too bad! That is one of my greatest fears........
Ditto!
Also i am same as you in that, while i crave physical connection, i am terrified of it, i am not used to close contact, we were not a huggy family either. "holding therapy" if their was such a thing (is there?) would be scary but i would def. try it.
This is a common feeling on this board... about touch and hugs, it makes me wonder if we live in such an emotionally/physically barren world that we are literally starving for this human connection??
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Actually, there is a technique called the "holding therapy". It is used more in children with autism and other disorders. Its not really viewed upon very favorably by many.
My holding therapy is different from that. I just mean that I would like to get a nice long hug! You know, the kind that makes you feel like you can melt into the other person's arms? That is what I would like to feel. I haven't felt that in a long time. Maybe never?
I hold my grandchildren and try to let them '
feel' how much I love them. If my granddaughter falls asleep before I got a chance to rock her, I will pick her up and rock her anyway. I
need to hold her and feel that connection as she falls asleep. It helps me probably more than it helps her!
For myself, this probably should be coming from my spouse, but we don't have that kind of relationship (long story). It is my fault, though. He wants that kind of relationship. I just can't do it. There is so much 'junk' in the way. I don't know how to get that close to him. It hurts me too bad. This is something we are working on in therapy. I don't know that we will ever get to that place in our marriage, but I guess there is always hope. Miracles do happen!