Thanks Zen and Heidu, I appreciate it. I have started plans to move, he doesn't want to go to counseling. I am not sure he believes he would ever need counseling, and I can't force him. I have let him know that I do love him, and I show him that all the time. He didn't negate that we might eventually get back together if we've been apart. But I also feel there is a lot more to it than he says. If I were to choose a reason, I'd say that he took a couple of things about me that he doesn't like and has been sitting and stewing on those. I know he thinks I am emotionally needy (I can be, but after reading Mars/Venus, I know that it is very common in women and I am not too "out there"). He also says that we are different. So what? We are very much the same as well. I think it is the differences that drew us together. Two nights ago we made love, so there isn't that there isn't any attraction. Though unlike him, I don't believe that someone can be just friends and have sexuality between them as well. He has had that in the past - where he only considered a woman a friend, but there was sexuality between them (not intercourse). I don't believe that you can be friends and be attracted and have sex. I just don't.

The other morning he also came out of the bedroom after I'd been gone a few minutes, wondering where I was and if I was coming back. That doesn't sound to me like someone who doesn't love me. I don't know what he wants, but he has had a very loving woman in me and while it will also be my loss, I think it will be a bigger one for him. I hope he realizes it sooner than later. I don't understand why someone won't go to to counseling if even just for themselves.

Now the question - once I move out (in just under a month) - how much communication should I have? Should I spend as much time as he wants with him, and try to be "friends"? Once one of us starts dating others, I don't see us as being friends at that time. I just want to know the best thing to do to possibly keep or respark a relationship. I do know that living a happy life would be very important - being more like the person he met, I guess. Though again, he'd eventually need to learn to communicate.