For myself, this probably should be coming from my spouse, but we don't have that kind of relationship (long story). It is my fault, though. He wants that kind of relationship. I just can't do it. There is so much 'junk' in the way. I don't know how to get that close to him. It hurts me too bad. This is something we are working on in therapy. I don't know that we will ever get to that place in our marriage, but I guess there is always hope. Miracles do happen!