T1 is 7 yrs older than me, and I liked that.....close enough in age to me that we could relate in that sense, but I did want someone older than me, rather than younger. For some reason, I just don't feel comfortable with the thought of a T younger than me......I want my T to be older than me. T2 is in her 50s, and I'm 35.......it's really about the same age diff as I have with my H anyway. I wouldn't have thought I'd be comfortable with a T that much older than me, but it has worked fine......her life experience, her work experience, the fact that she wasn't young/beautiful so there wasn't the same sort of erotic transference I had with my T closer to my age (well, she's not homely either! and the lack of erotic/empathic transference has a lot to do with her personality difference from T1, too). Anyway, yeah, if I were to go for a third T, I'd want someone in her mid40's maybe......that feels right to me, rather than someone younger than me or past their 50s.