i have an appropriate fear of intimacy with jerks. Several of my therapists have been jerks, and I have feared being connected to them, rightly so. for that reason, and probably several others, I have had adversarial relationships with some therapists some of the time.

When someone wins my trust (it is not available all the time for all people) then amazing things can happen.

I like to quote Carl Jung.....

The combination of two people is like the mixing of chemical substances. If there is any reaction at all, both are transformed.

I'm not very interested, at this late date, in dealing with people like the guy who wrote the Buyers Guide and said:

The most important work of psychotherapy takes place inside the therapist's head as he or she thinks through the patient's snag points in dealing with this latest bump along the road of life.

Huh?

It takes all kinds, I guess, but why would anyone want that kind of therapist?