There are a LOT of studies that show we are really bad at detecting depression. What you believe are obvious signs may not have been unless your parents could see your behavior in multiple facets of your life. I fought with my parents about getting help but was ignored because they didnt know what mental illness was. They did what they knew and they were closeminded about it. However I cant be angry. Im blessed enough that the stigma is not that terrible that eventually I could take my health into my own hands. My quality of life is in my own hands. Im probably more optimisitic about my prognosis then others. Im also a big believer in staying in the present...this would have come out better if i wasnt using my phone...but thats the gist of it.