I have been with a BPD partner (undiagnosed) for 14 years. We have two boys - 3 and 5 - and I don't know if I can stand to stay any longer. His mood swings, the Jekyll and Hyde behavior. Everything is a competition. Even time with our boys is to prove he is better parent than I am.

I am a successful 40 something woman who really wanted to stay married. I have fought for this marriage so many times.

Am I going to mess up my kids more by staying or going? I am lost - HELP!