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Originally Posted by hankster
Doesn't some of what happens, what heals, in therapy take place at a non-verbal, unconscious level? T has said just the regularity of meetings builds feelings of security. So just settin' there holding dolls - a T tea party, so to speak - might have some reparative value not apparent to the naked eye.
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True enough, Hankster. (At least, I think it is. I haven't really gotten very far on the security front after 3 years.) Then again, it's exactly because of this question...I want the younger years "made up for," and T is very clear that that can't happen, and she's in no way there to try it. Knowing that, I still refuse to just settle in and do the hard work of grieving it all. And I refuse to "act young" or in any way be vulnerable on a conscious level because I know I'll meet with her refusal. Apparently I don't want to give her anything to say "no" to, which was my own mother's constant verbal and emotional refrain. Seems I'm holding out for a better deal this time.
So no T teas for me. But you know I love your wit and am still waiting for you to come move in with me, Hankster.
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And by the way...I hope this doesn't seem like a hijack. I'm hoping my experience gives Jazzy something to connect to. But my sincerest apologies if it doesn't.