hi and to PC ebruce =)

I'm sorry you're stuck in this relationship right now. I personally don't have the perspective I think I need to give you advice on this one. I hope someone here does - it sounds like a really unhealthy situation to me. Have you tried couples therapy?/Family therapy?

Also just so you know there is another part of this forum that is for healthy parenting, and you could repost this there in a few days if you want some advice from some different people who might not read this section too often =)