I can't even reply to everyone like I said I was going to. Sorry........but here is an update. I did return my t's phone message and he was suprised that I had called him. I was oh so angry. I asked why he thought he could just change everything and that is not what we had agreed to. He said that he agreed that he would not terminate on me but that he never said that he wouldn't change the number of sessions.

Basically from what I got he had requested a skype conference with a DBT specialist from behavoral tech (Marsha Linehan's cronies) about me. He never even told me he was going to do this!!! And they did confirm that he had some "therapy interfering behaviors." I just love their own mumbo jumbo to make them feel better. The interfering that they were doing was fostering my dependence on them by reassuring me that they cared for me and are not going to abandon me. It was a negative reinforcer? I am not sure what that is at all. But apparently it didn't make my anxiety go down. And by meeting twice a week with me it just made me more dependent and less reluctant to make other relationships. Duh, because it was safe. So basically t and skills trainer t worked all their therapy magic to get me to love and trust and connect and then it must have appalled them so they are trying to shove me away.

I said that I was done because I didn't trust him anymore and didn't have any drive to continue therapy. He asked if it was true that I really didn't trust him after four years of working with him and I said yes. I told him he was a loose cannon and who knows what he was going to fire off at me next.

He pulled out that "wise mind ********" again. And then he said that I would be making a sad choice not to continue on with therapy.

I told him that I am not just a consultation or a dbt formula but I am a real person with feelings and needs. I finished off the conversation by telling him that he can fill my appointment times with another "fresh meat borderline" (no offense please) and hopefully he won't break their heart as well. AGGGGHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I told him I wanted a referral and he told me I would have to come in tomorrow to my appointment to get it.