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but I'm still living a promiscuous and tawdry dream- life that, other than the "dad dreams", I secretly really enjoy and get stimulation from.
One mind tells me, this is fine, I'm not actually acting out any of my dreams and I love and respect my husband so it's all good...but my other mind wonders, am I an unconscious cheater? And I worry...what if my dreams, which already build and inform my fantasies, start leaking into my waking sexuality, and in a moment of depressive, self-loathing weakness, will my unconscious promiscuity reach out into my waking life?
Where is the line drawn?
If dreaming about the bouncer @ the local nightclub is okay, is "innocently" flirting with him okay?
I've been with my husband for 7 years...and I'm starting to understand what the "7 year itch" really feels like. I say now I would NEVER EVER cheat on my husband...but what is Cheating exactly?
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The "secretly enjoy and get stimulation from" is kinda maybe getting close to the line, and flirting with someone you dream/fantasize about might be playing with matches, but no fire yet
Are you cheating? By
my standards/criteria you aren't, but my views aren't typical so that isn't exactly a gold stamp of approval.
If you say you will "NEVER EVER" cheat, that sounds reassuring enough.